Building Your Self-Confidence


To be a successful person in life, and to be able to achieve your dream, you must have some level of confidence in yourself and about life. The importance of developing a confident attitude allows you to wade through the push and pull of different voices and opinions telling you “yes, no, maybe, do this, do that.”

An article on self-confidence from the counselling center at the university of Illinois Urbana-Champaign defines self- confidence as having a positive attitude but with realistic views.They note that a self-confident person has a general sense of control of her own life, and can do what she wishes, plans and expects. Self-confidence means that if things didn’t go your way, you still believe that eventually, somehow, someway, they will.
Some people mistake confidence for arrogance, though some confident people may be come arrogant when they turn out to be successful in life and I call them The overconfidence. while some people may be arrogant but never confident. They are two extremes and should be treated differently.
Your parents may have instilled self-confidence in you by encouraging self- reliance and giving you love even when you make mistakes. Even if you do not have your parent’s help, you can accomplish it.

Relying on other people to guide you and following their opinions robs you off your individuality, makes you doubt  yourself,and this can lead to depression.
Self confidence is an attitude you hold about yourself that allows you to move forward and achieve your goals.

If you think you are beaten you are
If you think you dare not, you don’t.
If you would like to win, but think you can’t…
It’s almost certain you won’t…
Life’s battle don’t always go to the to the stronger or faster man,
but soon or later, the man who wins is the man who thinks he can.

If you are a person who often lives in the cloud of doubt,achieving greater heights could be a struggle.

The University of Illinois Urbana Champaign puts it more clearer with the four tips.

First,emphasize strengths by giving yourself credit.

Second, take risks by looking at new experiences as a chance to learn, not win, or lose.

Third, use of self-talk by stopping in the middle of a negative thought, and reframing it with a negative thought or words.

Fourth, self- evaluation allows you to gain a stronger sense of self, and to stop giving away your personal powers to others.
Telling yourself every morning or when you are faced with a challenge “I can do this, I am capable enough, I can achieve this.” will go a long way to help boost your confidence level .

Take note of this important truth by John C.Maxwell

If you think you are beaten you are
If you think you dare not, you don’t.
If you would like to win, but think you can’t…
It’s almost certain you won’t…
Life’s battle don’t always go to the to the stronger or faster man,
but soon or later, the man who wins is the man who thinks he can.

Published by M'bolla

Omobola Stephen is a writer,blogger and an author. She's the host of Life Well lived by Omobola Stephen. She loves meeting people,reading and mentoring.

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